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How can you stay in the Light?

Your body, emotions, mind and will / desires make up a fascinating framework out of which you may choose to live - either in Peace and Satisfaction (Light) or continually defensive (Shadow). 

Learn more about the 4 Steps to Hope and Change so that you can choose where you will spend your time and energy.

4 Steps Can Change Your Life
Learn About the Choice-Cube Method

Do you sometimes find yourself feeling overwhelmed, lonely, fearful, or frustrated?

Things seem very different if you have a visual framework to help you understand yourself, simple tools/strategies to help you change, and four dependable steps to guide that change so that you consciously shift to a better state of mind.

The Choice-Cube Method, found in the book Become the Person You Were Meant to Be, equips you with a Visual framework, Tools, and 4 Steps to help you make that positive shift every time you use them.

How important is that... being able to shift consciously to a better place when you are upset, but don't know why or when you feel out of control and just want to escape or get into a fight! 

Would you like to learn to stay aware and present, able to manage your body, emotions, thoughts, pictures in your mind, and desires?

Managing these reactions gives you freedom of choice and is an open door to the changes you desire. True, shifting to a better state of mind is not always an easy task, but here's where the Choice-Cube Method can help.

Using the Method you begin to understand why you do what you do. Instead of feeling bewildered or ashamed of your reactions, you learn to recognize when you go on auto-pilot so that you can quickly break free, make healthy choices, and shift to your healthy-real-self.

In process you learn to be honest and compassionate with yourself and with others..

 If you are feeling stuck and afraid that things will never change, using the Method  will expose the blockages that are keeping you stuck and help you get  unstuck and moving on in life. As a matter of fact, if you use the Tools to take the 4 Steps, you will not… you cannot get stuck! There is always another Tool to use, another Step to take.

Also, using the Method, you learn to accept yourself and become your own best friend. This creates personal safety and gives you renewed confidence that change is possible.

Step-by-step, you make the changes necessary to become the person you were meant to be. It all starts with recognizing when you are in the Light or in Shadow.

 LIGHT:  When you are in the LIGHT, you are aware, present. The best of your conscious mind-––the honest and compassionate part of you––is in control. You can see both sides of reality and choose which reality you prefer to focus on.

ARE YOU READY TO STAY AWARE and make healthy choices that express the best of who you are? 

SHADOW: When you are in the SHADOWS, you are on auto pilot. Failing to be aware and fully in the present, you seem unable to express the best of who you are. Your subconscious mind and your past are controlling you and your choices.You are repeating distorted, often limiting thoughts, feelings and behaviors that cause you to use strategies that are life-threatening or useless at best. These ways of reacting to life helped you get by in the past but are undermining you and your relationships now.

ARE YOU READY TO STOP SLEEPWALKING THROUGH LIFE, allowing your past and your subconscious mind to hijack you?

Consider the Choice-Cube Method!

This approach to freedom of choice and change gives you a simple Visual Aid to help you know when you are in Shadow.  But there's more...

The Method also equips you with 4 Steps that you can depend on to help you move from Shadow to Light as well as simple Tools for taking each of the 4 Steps.

What's the payoff if you use the Choice-Cube Method to stay in the Light and get out of Shadow?

In the LIGHT you are honest, grateful, peaceful, hopeful, and satisfied.  Actually, feeling this way is meant to be your normal way of life. Yes, stress and problems come around, but in the light you manage to stay open and curious, like a kid. You're balanced, a "giver," not just a "taker.' Instead of becoming inappropriately defensive, trying to avoid or control people, things, and problems, you take action to resolve them "win-win."

In the SHADOWS, you feel stressed, confused, frustrated, anxious, or just numb. In shadow, you shy away from the honesty and compassion of Light. You want to avoid difficult situations or control them in ways that feel safe but that usually fail to resolve the issues. Perhaps you feel stuck with no options

When you are in SHADOW, your primary concern is to avoid discomfort or to feel in control. Think of yourself. Do you sometimes feel unsafe, defensive? Like a "people pleaser" or "victim"? Or are you the person who must always feel in control, a "one-up, top-dog" victimizer? Have you ever found yourself swinging between the two - in the "Victim-Victimizer Swing" - where feeling safe or getting what you think you want or need is foremost?!

It's normal to go into shadow, things happen. The problem is getting stuck there.
  • Do you know how to recognize Shadow and why you go into it?

  • Do you know how to shift your state of mind quickly and avoid getting stuck in Shadow?  

  • Do you know how to make changes that last?

You can find answers to these questions in my book, Become the Person You Were Meant to Be - The Choice-Cube Method:  Step by Step to Choice and Change, which was written specifically to provide answers. The blogs on this website might also be helpful (see the key word "tag cloud" to the right).

If you want to make some changes, it's up to you. Take a look around the website. Buy the book. Learn how you can use the Choice-Cube 4 steps and tools to understand yourself and make the changes you need to make to become the person you were meant to be.  




“Dr. Cuje unlocks deep human truths in this book. The wisdom and insight that she offers empower the reader to work within a very helpful, tangible framework to overcome past hurts, wounds and disappointments with wonderful practical tools. She helps you realize that CHANGE IS POSSIBLE.”