4 Steps for Hope and Change-The Choice-Cube Method
Can help you shift from Shadow to Light.
Shadow? LIght? At any moment you are in one of these two possible points-of-view.
Someone who is grateful and hopeful is in the light. Actually, feeling this way is meant to be your normal way of life. Yes, stress and problems will come around, but in the light you keep your focus on God and his Word, You manage to stay open and curious, like a kid. You're a "giver," not just a "taker.' Instead of inappropriately trying to avoid or control people, things, and problems, you take action to resolve them "win-win." You are on the road to becoming the person God created you to be.
Someone who feels stressed, confused, frustrated, numb, anxious, or stuck with no options is in the shadows. It's normal to go into shadow, things happen. The problem is getting stuck there. Think of yourself. Do you sometimes feel defensive? Like a "victim." Or are you the person who likes to stay "one-up, top-dog?" Are you sometimes the victimizer? Have you ever found yourself swinging between the two--in the "Victim-Victimizer Swing?"
When you are in shadow, your primary concern is to avoid discomfort or to feel in control. You may be a Christian, but in shadow your outside focus on a person, thing, addiction, or problem makes it almost impossible to "hear" from God. Surrender and trust in his goodness and faithfulness don't seem to be a priority at the very moment you most need him.. Feeling safe, or getting what you want or think you need is foremost!
Without realizing it, you have trained your brain and body to react at times in certain negative ways (fear, anger, numbness). Now, when something triggers you, subconscious Instincts and habit patterns take over and run your life.
To say it another way, what you learned in the past has conditioned you so that in certain circumstances, your subconscious mind and body dictate what you think, feel, want, and do. Current research even suggests that by age thirty-five, your subconscious mind dictates 94-96% of your reactions!
What about you? Do you spend more time in shadow than in light? Are you feeling stuck, unable to change? The following video can help you understand why. For a deeper understanding, go to my blog, This Video: A Cousin To Become the Person You Were Meant to Be? (see above), There are other blogs also to help you make the changes you desire.
If you want to make some changes, it's up to you. Take a look around the web-site. Buy the book. Learn how you can use the Choice-Cube 4 steps and tools to understand yourself and make the changes you need to make to become the person you were meant to be.