4 Steps Can Change Your Life

At any moment you are living in the present making choices that help you grow and express the best of who you are. You are in the Light, becoming the person you were meant to be.    

Or you are living from your past, not the present. You are mindlessly repeating old thoughts, feelings and behaviors, unable to express the best of who you are. You are in the Shadows,

In the Light you are grateful and hopeful.  Actually, feeling this way is meant to be your normal way of life. Yes, stress and problems will come around, but in the light you manage to stay open and curious, like a kid. You're a "giver," not just a "taker.' Instead of becoming inappropriately defensive, trying to avoid or control people, things, and problems, you take action to resolve them "win-win." You are on the road to becoming the person you were meant to be.

In the Shadows, you feel stressed, confused, frustrated, or anxious. You want to avoid a difficult situation or control it in a way that fails to resolve the issue. You may just be numb and feel nothing. Or you may feel stuck with no options . It's normal to go into shadow, things happen. The problem is getting stuck there. Think of yourself. Do you sometimes feel defensive? Like a "victim."  Or are you the person who likes to stay "one-up, top-dog?" Are you sometimes the victimizer? Have you ever found yourself swinging between the two--in the "Victim-Victimizer Swing?"

When you are in shadow, your primary concern is to avoid discomfort or to feel in control. You may be a Christian, but in shadow your outside focus on a person, thing, addiction, or problem makes it almost impossible to "hear" from God. Surrender and trust in his goodness and faithfulness don't seem to be a priority at the very moment you most need him.. Feeling safe, or getting what you want, or think you need, is foremost!

What's gone wrong? Why do you go into the Shadows? What can you do about it? Can you change?

To understand how 4 steps can change your life, take a look at "Try The Method" (see above). You can also find some answers to these questions in my blogs. My book, Become the Person You Were Meant to Be - The Choice-Cube Method:  Step by Step to Choice and Change, was written specifically to provide answers.

If you want to make some changes, it's up to you. Take a look around the web-site. Buy the book. Learn how you can use the Choice-Cube 4 steps and tools to understand yourself and make the changes you need to make to become the person you were meant to be.  


      How can you stay in the Light?  Read more here.